Ask. Let Go. Listen.

This painting is one of intention, hope and faith, from the Light chapter of Millennial Mom’s tale. Desire is fundamental to our human nature.  It fuels our growth, and leads us to evolve.  Ultimately, it is the path to our true selves, leading us to work for the things that bring the deepest fulfillment. It is a universal desire… a need… to be known, to feel understood, cared for, loved.  When those needs aren’t met, we turn to substitute gratifications.  We over-consume substitutes — food, drugs or alcohol, entertainment, shopping, sex, work, perfectionism.  Or we seek to protect ourselves with…

I Didn’t Think It Would Be like This

Here we visit those infamous partners in sorrow – expectation, and resistance.  We expect life to turn out a certain way.  In annoyance and complaint, we resist what actually happens.  This painting is of the DARKNESS chapter of Millennial Mom’s tale. WANTING AND WISHING And this is the noble truth of the arising of sorrow. It arises from craving… — The Pali Canon If only ____, life would be better.  Many of us seek happiness in achievement and lifestyle, in living well.  We are certain the answers lie in the right relationship;  in financial security or status;  in the comfort…

I Didn’t See This Coming

LIFE IS UNPREDICTABLE One of the basic laws of life is the constant of change.   Living in fear and resistance, it can be too much.  Lack of care for psychological stress can tip one into despair. Life is what happens to you while you’re busy making other plans. — Beautiful Boy (Darling Boy), John Lennon THE ILLUSION OF CONTROL Our culture teaches us we can get what we want if only we try harder, sacrificing to get where we want to be.  Today’s norms have us moving away from family support,  over-committing ourselves so we can enjoy all life has…

Millennial Mom Battles Mediocrity

Millennial Mom’s tale begins with Myth, which examines our pursuit of happiness through perfection and validation from others.  In Millennial Mom Battles Mediocrity, I address the illusion that achieving a certain weight or physical accomplishment will deliver that sense of worthiness and wholeness we all desire.  That all will be right in our world, if only we be can be… better than we are now. WHAT I WAS DOING For years I pursued this illusion — if only I could lean down and get fit, look “beautiful”, wear my favorite clothes again, my worries would be over.   I would finally…

Millennial Mom Battles Monkey Mind

Meditation has saved me.  Along with exercise, a nutritious diet, great sleep, sunshine and fresh air, a daily meditation practice is key to my health and well-being. Much of our suffering is caused by our thinking.  We can free ourselves from this suffering by learning to recognize what is true in the present moment.  We do this through the regular practice of mindfulness, otherwise known as meditation.   – Tara Brach, PhD WHY MEDITATE Very practically, meditation has been shown to help manage pain, depression, stress, and cortisol levels, as well as raise our happiness set point, that point on…

Life School in a Hippie Rock Opera

I believe life is about learning to love. And that we are given lessons in various forms, be it relationships, events, stories, religion, art, or anything, really. Always seeking wisdom, I listen for answers everywhere. Here I share with you a timely and profound life lesson which took me years to understand, and one which I revisit regularly. THIS IS ABOUT SPIRITUALITY, NOT RELIGION All religions teach stories from which we can learn. I’m sharing an Easter story here, but only because Christianity is the religion I was raised in, and am familiar with. I don’t attend church any longer,…

Millennial Mom Surrenders…And It’s Not What You Think

I love this painting, because it is one of the transformational points in the Millennial Mom story. Deep in her emotional underworld of despair and grief, she finds the key to change and resiliency. When most people think of surrender, they think of weakness, and failure. I think surrender is about strength, faith and maturity, and is critical to peace of mind. Just let go. Let go of how you thought life should be, and embrace the life that is trying to work its way into your consciousness. – unknown, quote found in my journal OUR CULTURE OF MAKING IT…